I miss you – I miss who I am when I’m with you
I love you – I love how you make me feel
I want you – I want you to make me feel good
I need you – I don’t think I’m enough
All of the above are usually said to another with good intentions.
What they can really mean is highlighted above and goes deeper and is usually a lacking in ourselves which is highlighted when we become close to people who make us feel good.
There is nothing wrong with it at all and being with family, friends and loved ones is a blessing. However it can also be a crutch that can lead to needs and expectations placed on the people close to us to continously feed us with happiness because at times we are unaware that we are enough and can make ourselves happy.
We completely disregard what we can offer ourselves and will never take the time to invest in consciously making our own lives on earth better using our own means.
This is something we are greatly missing out on and by ignoring this our own power we create a vortex of lacking which in the end hurts the ones we claim to love by trying to control them in order to get a hit of happiness.
We have all at some point in our lives used the words “I love you, miss you, need you and want you” from fear based reasons that were selfish and to get something back.
Everyone shows thier appreciation for others in different ways and perhaps for some saying I love you comes with no expectations and it simply is just pure love, which is the way it should be.
I’ve been thinking about this in more depth and have come to the conclusion that next time I wish to share my real appreciation for another person I would have to tell them “I love who you are” instead of “I love you”. Instead of I miss you, “I’m thinking of you and sending you good vibes”.
I can’t personally imagine using the words I want you ever again so I don’t have an alternative for that, and lastly instead of I need you, I would say can you……….please.
Why am I thinking of this? Because I want to be selfless and live life from a place of completeness rather than lacking. Peace of mind is priceless and being happy just like anything in life takes concious effort. Being selfless and to consciously choose to make myself and others happy is how I wish to live my life. I never want to take from another to complete myself because it’s a never ending self fulfilling profecy.